It only comes around  once every blue moon–a day when all the numbers in the date match to create a frenzy of excitement for soon-to-be brides.  Why?    Here are three reasons :

1) The numbers just roll off the tongue with unforgettable flair

2) It’s got to be a day filled with good luck

3) It will be hard for their future husbands to forget their anniversary

Whatever the reason, many brides have chosen this day for their upcoming wedding.  Only a few short months away, it has quite a ring to it, doesn’t it?  As if the day isn’t remarkable enough, here are a few ways to accent it even more with wedding favors.

Personalized Wedding Favors

Nothing makes a great first impression and a lasting one like personalized wedding favors.  And, with a date like 10-10-10, who wouldn’t want to print it on everything in sight.  From mint tins to stemless wine glasses, your names and highly celebrated wedding date can be imprinted with style on just about anything.  To be sure that the significance of the date stands out, use the numbers 10-10-10 instead of writing it out October 10, 2010.  It just doesn’t have quite the same umph!  Each time they see the picture frame, keepsake tin or matches, they’ll think about you and your special day.

Fall Wedding Favors

This special date just happens to come right at the beginning of my most favorite season–FALL!  With the leaves beginning to turn and a nip in the air, you can also celebrate the season on your special day.  A beautiful autumn wedding would be greatly enhanced by fall wedding favors–especially if you can add the date.  Coasters with “falling leaves,” personalized bottles of maple syrup and elegant leaf bottle stoppers are just a few of the choices available.  For easy do-it-yourself personalization, try printing your names and wedding date on a slip of paper and inserting it into a beautiful fall picture frame instead of using it as a place card holder.  The impact will be an autumn-atic success!

Hit The Magic Number

Let 10 be your guide!  Incorporate it into everything at your wedding.  Here are a few suggestions:  Ten bridesmaids, a wedding that begins at 10:10 AM, ten guests seated around each table at the reception, recite a poem about the 10 things you love about each other at the ceremony, 10 flowers in your bouquet…well, you get the idea!  You can even put 10 little candies inside your wedding favor boxes to symbolize a double portion of the health, wealth, happiness, fertility and longevity they normally represent.

If you can think of other fun ways to highlight the number 10 at your wedding, let me know.

There were several celebrity weddings this past weekend (Alicia Keys, rapper T.I.), but the wedding making big news was Chelsea Clinton’s marriage to Marc Mezvinsky, where a deeply moving poem entitled “The Life That I Have” by Leo Marks was read during the ceremony. I’m sure it will be included in thousands of wedding ceremonies to come. Here it is…

The life that I have
Is all that I have
And the life that I have
Is yours.

The love that I have
Of the life that I have
Is yours and yours and yours.

A sleep I shall have
A rest I shall have
Yet death will be but a pause
For the peace of my years
In the long green grass
Will be yours and yours and yours.

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It’s a lovely, meaningful poem, and it’s just one of thousands of poems perfect for reading at a wedding ceremony. If you like the idea of including a poem in your ceremony and you want to be original, spend a little time online (start with the keywords “love poems” or “wedding poems”) to find a poem that resonates with both you and your groom-to-be.

I’m glad you took some time today
To spend a while with me
And let me share a sweet idea
With a lovely bride-to-be.

I watched her grow as an artist and win it all on American Idol.  She’s made the country music world her oyster, and deservedly so. Carrie got married over the weekend, and I discovered she walked the aisle, had her first dance with husband Mike Fisher and gave out her bridesmaid gifts just down the road from my Atlanta, GA home!

Carrie Underwood’s Wedding Venue

I figure you’ll hear plenty about the wedding soon enough, so I thought you might like to find out more about the place they got married—the Ritz Carlton/ Reynolds Plantation on beautiful Lake Oconee in Greensboro, GA, which is just  a little more than an hour’s drive east of Atlanta.

Mother Nature got the memo about Carrie’s Reynolds Plantation wedding. As it often is during Georgia summers, the weather was sunny and hot. I don’t think she, her new husband and guests were subjected to any isolated showers, which is nice!

The Ritz Carlton hotel chain is know for its super-luxe accommodations, and the resort at Reynolds Plantation is spectacular! Here’s what they say on their Web site:

At The Ritz-Carlton, Reynolds Plantation in Georgia, you’ll be greeted by a shimmering lake and quiet tranquility. Whether your visit at the lodge includes golfing on championship courses, a relaxing day of fishing, wandering through antebellum towns or just relaxing at the spa, this Georgia luxury hotel offers an engaging backdrop in the heart of nature.

I thought you might like to see a few photos of the homes in those antebellum towns. It’s a stunning step into the past—shadows of Gone With The Wind—and I hope you come visit the area soon and enjoy some of our famous southern hospitality! Y’all just might decide to get married here, too!

I’m going to let you watch this dubious trend unfold for yourself while I visit the little girls’ room…

Okay. I’m back. There’s not a lot I can say about this twisted idea except eeeeeewwwwwwwwwwww! Is this on your list of wedding accessories? Why would a woman want to walk around her wedding reception (or anyone else’s, for that matter) with a urine-soaked diaper just so she won’t miss a moment of her special day. It certainly would be a special day (i.e. something froze over) before I’d wrap myself in a diaper unless I was medically incontinent. Follow my logic…

The wedding is over and you’re in the honeymoon suite. Lovingly, passionately, slowly, the man of your dreams undresses you for the first time as your husband, carefully removing your wedding gown, followed by those sexy, white undergarments. What are the chances he’s had experience removing an adult diaper from a woman? What would you think if you were watching with delicious anticipation as your new husband got down to his skivvies, only to discover a diaper beneath his boxers? I don’t know about you, but I’d be laughing so hard I wouldn’t be able to find my cell phone to snap a few photos. Talk about killing the mood.

I trust all my readers have enough sense to select a wedding gown that doesn’t impair her ability to relieve herself. But forever more, at every wedding we attend, we’ll all wonder–does she or doesn’t she? Only her bladder knows for sure…

Always classy and ever-so chic, damask has been a favorite for years.  With a touch of tradition and charm, it’s still considered a trendy choice for sophisticated brides.  Rich, elegant and smart-looking–I absolutely love it!  And, I’m glad to see it popping up all over the place.  From favors to decor, you can find this distinctive design in some fresh, new places.  Perfect for black-and-white weddings (or anyone with a savvy sense of style), here are a few of my favorites:

Bridal Shower Favors:

You don’t have to wait until the wedding to give them a glimpse of what’s to come.  Let your love for damask spill over onto every pre-nuptial event you have planned–and, that’s easy to do with this stylish compact.  From bridal showers to girls night out, there’s no reason to keep this posh accessory under wraps.  It’s useful.  It’s elegant, and it shows your favorite girls the beauty within.

Bridesmaid gifts:

What girl wouldn’t love a distinctive purse like this?!  It can go anywhere, do anything and look absolutely stunning while doing it.  A swanky complement to any outfit, the wristlet can be embroidered with a single initial and filled with everything she’ll need for a night on the town.  This personalized bridesmaid gift is sure to be all the rage among your friends.

Table decor:

Nothing brings a sense of sophistication quite like this black-and-white pattern.  But, adding it to your table decor with these vellum shades also brings romance! With the candle’s glow flickering inside the glass, the mood will definitely be memorable at your wedding.

Wedding favors:

And, of course, we’ve saved the best for last.  There’s nothing better than giving your guests a little damask to take home with them.  Inspire a few romantic evenings of their own with the damask votive, or place something special inside the favor box for them to enjoy.  It’s unique shape is intriguing, don’t you think?!

Of all the designs, tell me which one is your favorite!

“It” is getting into the Guinness Book of World Records, which is what Jill Stapleton might have accomplished when she got married to Chad Greenhill in Proctorville, OH this past Saturday. The previous world record for bridesmaids at one wedding was 90.

According to reports, Jill owns Jill’s Tumble World, a gymnastics and cheerleading studio, and she invited all her students to join in. She only asked that they wear purple or teal dresses, which are the gym’s colors.

If you want to see a video of the procession, cut and paste http://www.wsaz.com/charleston/headlines/96232559.html into your browser bar.

So I guess the Guiness World Record people have to decide whether 110+ pre-K, elementary school-age, preteen and teenage girls qualify as bridesmaids to validate the record, though I don’t think going for the record was actually part of Jill’s dream. I also wonder who paid for the flowers each girl carried, and the big question is—Did Jill get bridesmaid gifts for all 110+ “bridesmaids”? If you watch the video, you’ll notice there appear to be six or so legitimate bridesmaids in bridesmaid attire who followed the long stream of mini-bridesmaids. They probably got the good gifts, while the rest of the parade got…what? Power bars?

In the video, we never see where the gymnastic students go. Either they’re all standing up at the altar with her, or there’s a door at the other end through which they all filed out. Maybe they just sat down wherever. Regardless, I leave you with this question:  No doubt it was an adorable stunt, but should this be a Guinness world record? Why or why not?

There’s no point in making you wait until the last paragraph to reveal the fashion color trends for 2010 and 2011, so here they are on the left. You may have heard of Pantone, the company that created this palette. These are the hot colors for autumn, winter and spring 2010/2011. Personally, I love them!

Who Determines Color Trends?

Color trends come to us from several sources, including Pantone, whose Pantone Color Matching System (PMS) is largely a standardized color reproduction system. By standardizing the colors, different manufacturers in different locations can all refer to the Pantone system to make sure colors match without direct contact with one another. I found it interesting that, even though a number of groups like this predict their own color trends from year to year, they’re all remarkably similar in their choices.

Perhaps the most influential predictor of color trends is The Color Marketing Group (CMG),  an international association for color design professionals which identifies the direction of color and design trends and translates them into salable colors for manufactured products. Composed of nearly 1,000 members in 20 countries, CMG forecasts color trends from one to three years in advance for color-related services and products, including fashion and even wedding favor boxes.

More About the Colors…

“Oyster Gray” and “Rose Dust” are the two most neutral options for the season, with Oyster Gray as the classic neutral and Rose Dust, a kind of “new ivory,”  a breezy, romantic tone somewhere between light pink and beige.

The typically autumn colors are “Golden Glow,” a terrestrial, deepened shade of yellow; “Chocolate Truffle,” a rich brown with a whisper of plum; “Woodbine,” a solid supporting green and “Lipstick Red,” a vivid, dramatic crimson.

The brighter, more spring-like tones for the colder months include “Lagoon,” a turquoise sure to add a tropical touch to fall and winter; “Purple Orchid,” a fuschia-inspired hue; “Living Coral,”  orange kissed by pink; and “Endive,” a fresh and lively yellow-green.

As I was writing this, I imagined a couple of color palettes using these colors, and I think they’re simply smashing–imagine Rose Dust and Woodbine together; Golden Glow, Chocolate Truffle and Lagoon; Purple Orchid and Rose Dust; Oyster Gray and Chocolate Truffle; Lipstick Red and Endive.

All lovely hues to color your world—and your wedding!

Wedding Trend Alert: Bridesmaids are Doin’ It For Themselves!

Mismatched bridesmaids dresses are nothing new. Wedding pundits have been touting this trend for several years. The bride selects the dress designer and the fabric, and she lets her bridesmaids choose the style that works best for their bodies.

The 2010 twist? Brides are choosing the color and simply handing it over to their bridesmaids, who then have the freedom to find an off-the-rack dress from any designer, in whatever style makes them look fabulous.

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Brides are discovering that this DIY bridesmaid thing takes a bit of the pressure off them. Meanwhile, bridesmaids are delighted to know they’ll not only look good the day of, but if they choose wisely, they’ll be able to wear the dress again. It’s a win-win! If you like this idea, go for it! A word to the wise–tell your bridesmaids how formal the dress should be to avoid one bridesmaid in a floor-length, beaded evening gown and another in a casual, short sundress.

Take No Chances!

Don’t wait until your wedding day to let your bridesmaids surprise you with their choices. Ask  your girls to let you have a look when they’ve found a dress (or two or three) that they like, so you can make sure each dress complements your color scheme and coordinates well with all the other dresses. They’re your friends, and they won’t disappoint you. In fact, they’ll be grateful for your confidence in them as well as the liberty to choose their perfect bridesmaid dress. At the same time, you’ll probably be so thrilled with their choices that you’ll kick your bridesmaids gifts up a notch!

Just for Fun!

I thought it would be fun to show you what you might wind up with if you let your bridesmaids surprise you with their frocks on the day of your wedding. Let’s say you want your attendants in bright red…

Did you know you can purchase one wedding favor from Favors in the City to see if you like it before you order dozens of them? This goes for bridal shower favors and baby shower favors, too!

Seeing—and Touching—Is Believing…

I don’t know about you, but I always like to see, touch and evaluate what I’m buying before I plunk down my money. Of course, that’s often virtually impossible when I buy online, which is a super way to get things that might not be readily available in brick-and-mortar stores in my area. For the most part, I like and keep what I get about 97% of the time. It’s the 3% that disappoint and need to be returned—a small hassle, wouldn’t you say? And you’re back to square one searching for the product you still want/need.

Usually, the disappointment is in quality. It looked so good on TV/my computer screen/in the newspaper or magazine ad. Up close and personal—not so much. And when it comes to something uniquely important, like, oh, I don’t know, let’s say wedding favors, I would want to make absolutely sure I’m 100% thrilled with everything about it before I give it to even one guest.

Sample an Example of Your Favorite Favor!

With their no minimums* policy, Favors in the City lets you purchase single samples of one or several favors so you can get the full effect of each favor and make sure it’s the one for that once-in-a-lifetime day you’re planning. When a company is confident of their product quality, sending you a sample shouldn’t be a problem. You’ll be charged the unit price of the product sample(s) plus shipping and handling. Once you place your final order, Favors in the City refunds your original shipping cost. Meanwhile, you can sit back and relax, knowing that, when your wedding favors will arrive, they’ll be exactly what you envisioned!

Just another favor to you from Favors in the City! Gotta love ‘em!

* Except on personalized items, edible favors or items sold in a set.

Amid all the craziness of wedding planning, it’s easy to forget that, even though your wedding vendors might be receiving a big, fat check for their services, they also need to be tipped. You can’t just give them one of the extra unique wedding favors you ordered or a handshake and call it a day.

Martha Knows Money!

Our friend Martha Stewart of Martha Stewart Weddings (you may have heard of her) has a detailed accounting of whom should be tipped, how much and how to handle it. Editor that I am, I’m going to provide you with an abridged version of her presentation so you can 1) be reminded that wedding vendor tipping is a must to thank them for a job well done (assuming it is well done) and 2) have a general idea of whom and how much to tip.

Know Up Front!

Keep in mind that some vendors include the gratuity in their fees, so always check. Others will let you choose the amount based on the level of their service. Needless to say, those tips can add up to big money, depending on the size of your wedding. You might want to ask a friend or family member to handle the tipping records and calculations for you, but you should write a personal thank-you note to each vendor after the event—perhaps a glowing recommendation they can use to obtain future customers. Okay. Here we go:

Who: Officiants

How Much: Typically  $75 to $100, separate from any fee you might be charged for the officiant’s time

How: Many religious officiants won’t accept cash tips. To thank them for their services, make a donation to their house of worship or give a gift certificate to a nice restaurant. If your wedding is performed by  a civil employee (judge, clerk or other non-religious official,) skip the gratuity as they might be legally unable to accept. A thank-you note, however,  is appropriate.

Who: Catering Staff (includes catering or banquet manager, servers, bartenders, chefs and other essential workers)

How Much: Typically 15-20% of the catering bill for the banquet manager to share with the kitchen and serving staff. Another option is to offer a flat amount for each worker: $100-$200 for the catering/banquet manager, $50 each for chefs and bakers, $20-$30 each for servers and kitchen staff, divided into separate envelopes.

How: Pay the director of the catering company in advance or hand them to the banquet manager toward the end of the event.

Who: Musicians and DeeJays

How Much: If you book through an agency, musicians and vocalists should be tipped about $20-$25 each and deejays should get at least $25. See details in “How.”

How: Tipping customs vary depending on whether you hire an independent band or deejay or book through an agency. For independent bands that book their own gigs, tipping isn’t customary. If you book through an agency, either the gratuity will be included in the contract or they’ll suggest you give a little extra to each band member in cash. Hand out the tips in cash envelopes at the end of the night.

Who: Stylists and Make-Up Artists

How Much: Just like you would for a regular appointment–15-20%. Assistants (shampoo person, etc.) should get $3-$5 each.

How: Hand out tips in envelopes directly to the stylists or leave them at the salon’s front desk. Cash is fine, or charging tips on your card when you pay for all the services is appropriate as well. If a stylist comes to your home or wedding venue, tip as you would at the salon. NOTE: Hair stylists and make-up artists who own their own businesses are generally not tipped.

Who: Photographers, Videographers, Florists and Wedding Coordinators

How Much: For the above vendors who own their own businesses, tipping isn’t necessary. For photographers, videographers and florists who don’t own the business, tip $30-$50; wedding coordinators should be given $50-$100.  For extraordinary service from any of these vendors, owners or not, think about giving an additional 10% or a thank-you gift—a gift certificate, perhaps, or a print from your photographer showing the vendor in action at your wedding.

How: In envelopes after the wedding.

Who: Site Staff (coat checkers, powder-room attendants, parking valets)

How Much: Coat checkers/$1-$2 per guest, which they can share; Powder-room attendants/$ .50-$1 per guest, divided among them; Parking valets/$1-$1.50 per car.

How: Some time before the wedding, ask the site manager to instruct workers not to accept any gifts from guests. Pay the workers at the end of the evening–cash in envelopes.  For the parking valets,  give the envelope to the parking manager, who will divide the cash among the valets.

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Who: Seamstresses, Delivery People and Drivers

How Much/How: Seamstresses don’t expect a cash tip, but a small thank-you gift (a photo of your in your gown?) is a lovely way to show your gratitude; $5 each to the people delivering the flowers when they make the delivery; 15-20% of the cost in cash (when it’s not included in the contract) to the limousine driver when you’re picked up;

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAThat’s it! Consider yourself tipped off!